We own a house in France, that we have fallen behind paying for, and his excuse is that he is basically using it at an excuse because he wants me to sort that and everything else out which has gone on since we got married. He just goes to work and comes home again, does not take any responsibility for anything and when anything goes wrong it is my fault. (Sorry go to go on). He plays psychological warfare non-stop, but I don't know how you can prove that and I have not got the confidence to carry anything through when I go to a Solicitor. He pays for nothing and earns four times what I do. I could go on for ever. This is just a sample of how he goes on; he is horrible to our son and treats him like dirt too, and wonders why he has nothing to do with him, and wonders why I hate him.
Because he wants to sort the French house out and wants me to help, but why should I, he wants the place, and he wants me to pay for it and pay for everything else, I need the confidence to go ahead and start things without stopping. I got as far as going ahead with divorce proceedings, and the divorce petition is at the court, and then he goes on saying how much he lives me and wouldn't have got a house in France if he thought it would end in divorce. He is playing games with me and I don't have support from anywhere to carry things through, I do not want to stay with someone who uses psychological warfare all the time and then denies he has done anything. I am not perfect either, but why should I stay miserable so he can stay happy. He won't listen to anything and is the same with our son, and everything always ends up being made out to be our fault.