Hi. I have been taking care of my three children for the last 13 years (since 6th October 2000) on my own. My ex husband deserted us and have not been giving any alimony. He has been living South Africa since 6th November 2000. I filed for divorce in 2007 here in the UK but did not know his whereabouts so did not pursue alimony. Today I find that I have raised 3 children all on my own without so much as a crumb of bread as contribution from his end. in the first 10 years the father did not make any direct contact with his children. He phoned me a few times. My son (the eldest) returned to SA twice to try and establish a relationship with his father but both times failed and his father send my son back to me. Raising and parenting his own son was too big a burden. Today at 46, I am satisfied that I have decidated my life to raising and nurturing my children and with the two girls having completed University, I feel that I have done good by them. My problem is that I because of the emotional burden/stress together with the huge financial burden/stress (at timses I held two jobs at a time), I have not had opportunity to invest in my own pension/savings. This late in the game, do I have a legal claim to gain financial compensation from my ex? I simply did not have the emotional energy or finances to fight this legal battle in the past and simply did what I had to do to get by emotionally especially as well as financially. Hopefully the Universe feels that justice should be done on my behalf and that of my children. BTW - my children is hugely supportive of me taking this step because they know how difficult it was for me/us and that I have always put them first. Your response and guidance gratefully accepted. Ms J (Ps. The father is Portuguese and I am South African. Children hold both passports but I am in the UK as EEA national - On Account of Children. I do have a contact number for Rui Oliveira Passos (father) in South Africa right now. He has remarried after the divorce and has been with this partner since around 2002.
no financial issues raised - I did not even know where he was at the time other than "somewhere in South Africa" and I did not even have to get his signature to finalise the divorce. No, I have never remarried or lived with a partner or even had a serious partner. He has been with partner most of the time though and has since remarried. Many thanks
Hi - I had to check up on this hence the delay in replying, apologies - I cant remember exactly how I worded it but I would have mentioned that my ex husband was not contributing financially but that I did not know his whereabouts and therefore could not pursue him for alimony.
I think I did not tick to make a financial claim.
he has no assets here in the UK and has not been here since 2000. He works and resides in South Africa, he has a job and is married with partner who also holds a job but other than this information I don't know anything about his circumstances.