friday - sunday 1 week.
friday - monday 3 week.
overnight thursday 4
visit thursday 2 week.
i will be proposing every other weekend for the weekends Tamara doesn't see me then 2 nights in the week.
At present Tamara goes 8 days without seeing her father, I can't see how this benefits Tamara.
I'll try and explain; week 1 friday to monday 3 nights - i pick tamara up from school on friday and drop her to school on Monday.
I then see Tamara just for a visit the following Thursday 15:10 - 18:00.
8 days later I have Tamara Friday to Sunday 2 nights.
Then the following Thursday pick up from school and drop of to school friday morning. 1 night.
I see Tamara 1 night a week every week.
Thank you for your reply.
I have tried mediation before. My ex pertner is not interested in allowing our daughter any extra time with her father. This is compounded by her actions from her latest relationship which has gone the same way.
She knows that the law favours her enormously and uses it.
My understanding from your answers/advice which I appreciate is that even if I lived next door Tamara would have to make do with seeing her father only once a week.
It's quite obvious that Tamara as all children requires a balanced up-bringing. Tamara being of mixed heritage, living in trhe area that she does and already displaying identity and attendance issues at school.
I will try the mediation but my ex will not agree to anything I have had to fight tooth and nail just to achieve the bare minimum.
Tamara needs balance in her life and that is from both mother and father. Her grandmother has endorsed the BNP which I feel is a huge worry. How can Tamara grow with these sorts of attitudes surrounding her.
I will take your advice and try. Last time I went to court, my staement was as non-offensive as I could 've made it. Yet my ex's just lied and attacked. The courts as I have unfortuneatly found out don't really care about fathers. There mind was made up. I will always try and put on a brave face. But the law is incredibly one sided.
Tamara's 1/2 siblings father only see's her father 1 a week although he lives 3 minutes away.
From what you have advised me, the law puts 1/2 siblings relationships in front of fathers relationship?
The children will have every other weekend together, which is deemed fine for her father, but not for 1/2 siblings?
I will speak to the other father and get the exact details of his contact. I will look at patterns. Eventually it would be easier if we had shared care.