Our daughter is 8.
We have mainly split expenses except that I paid deposit and initial purchase fees ( approx 60,000). I covered mortgage for about a year and all expenses in 2003/4 when he was unemployed. he has paid aDditional money to home improvement/renovation approx 20-25000. the house is worth 400,000 outstanding mortgage 137,000. I have always managed home fnances, he gives me n mount that is roughly hlf of joint expenses and I dal with it. I hve in mymy opinion
our daughter is 8. we both care for her, although as her mum I would say my daily, conversational, organising her life/things, physically being a mother is more. Home is worth 400,000, mortgage is 236,000. I bought house with initial laydown of approx 66,000. he has financially conrtibuted half mortgage over 10 yrs ( we twice remortaged) tho' in 2003/4 I paid all for about yr when he out of wk. he has spent approx 15,000 on home improvements...I have also spent money but also conrtibuted o my time /effort to make home. we mrried in 2004 and I put his name on deeds then.
we have lived together since January 2003- he moved into my old flat.I bought the house we now live in, in May 2003 and we married in May 2004. He works as a freelance IT consultant and earns more than me. I have always managed the home and finances and he pays me half a calculated bills, mortgage etc ammount monthly..he has historically given me as he sees it a 'bit more' £200 but in reality I spend more than this anywanyway on our daughter and things I don't account for. hHe still wants to make marriage work and for me it has been dead and an incompatible match for many yrs. I am going to try a last time to expalin this then suppose Imust see a solicitor, wanting to keep costs down.
This varies of course - 250,000 - 350,000 - I'd say. I live near stratford and wanstead in east london. I feel sure he will refuse to move. I would rather not sell, pay the mortgage myself and sell once my daughter finnishes full time education. she attends a private school, is extremeley happy and thriving there. I would be prepared to ask him for nothing except for school fees - although have not said this.