When we mutually separated, we had joint credit card debts of 35000, I paid these off,
We had a new ford car in finance, I let my x wife keep the car a further year and paid the finance my self then offered her to take over the payments and keep the car, she declined and the car went back to fords.
I didn't take a thing from the house apart from cloths and a few pictures off my children.
We bought the house for £185,000 and I spent £120,00 rebuilding the house into a 6 bedroom property using money from my credit cards, loans and dividends from my company, My x wife contributed zero.
her working wages always went to her personal account and I paid all bills and mortgage.
On separation I continued to pay her (from my bank) £500 for the first year per month and £450 the second year per month, now £300 per month for my son who was 14 now 16yrs old far more than I was legally entitled to pay.
And then we had a separation agreement mutually that I would pay for the divorce, give her £2500 to buy a car, and spent upto £10,000 completing the house ready for sale (she agreed to decorate)at which point all costs would come from the house sale profit (inc my 10k) and the profit then split 60% to her and 40% to me.
I have spent the £10,000 and the house is ready to market, my x wife contra to the agreement hasn't lifted a finger on getting the house completed the agreement says she decorates I had to get that done and have all receipts for work done and items purchased.
And the house would be on market by june 2013.
The estimated profit from the house is £100,000
So from the separation she has had and would get
Her £ 50% of credit card debts paid off
£2500 for a car
Extra maintenance reducing until my son was 18 or out off education (actually he has now left school and has applied to go to college studying sports not to A level) so affectedly I dont have to pay any maintenance.
No outlay to get house ready for sale
and 60% profit from house sale roughly £60,000
She now refuses to sell the house and is demanding the whole £100,000 profit.