I'm not sure what is going on but I've tried to reply via my tablet but it keeps crashing so I'm now on my laptop..fingers crossed this works!!
I'm not exactly sure how many hours he works but he is a teacher and would appear to be involved in out of school activities. He also has parents evenings and he seems to spend a lot of time working on a weekend either marking or preparing lessons. Our youngest Katie got upset the other week as even though she'd just spent the weekend at her dads she said that she missed daddy and she'd not really seen him.
Girls with him Mon/Tues, me Wed/Thurs then alternate weekends Fri-Sun.
Over the years the girls have tole me things which indicate that she is quite strict (bed before 7.30pm - even at 11 year old). It's a difficult situation as she does have MS and therefore I know she gets tired. I personally think she has too much to handle and takes it out on the girls when he is not there. They are worried if they forget anything before they go back to their dad's e.g. school jumpers, gloves etc and they have a completely different wardrobe of clothes for mum and dad's house even though I've always said that they are their clothes and they can wear what they want!
They have a son aged 4. I have also re-married but Richard and I have been together for 7 years, married 4 years ago. He has two children now aged 17 and 19 and we've had a 50/50 arrangement with them...absolutely no problems there. We also have a daughter between us aged 9 months who is very much loved and cherished by all the children.
Both girls get anxious with the changeover and say that they the don't want to go. My ex says that they say this at their end also so it probably is just the change but the home situation is so different between us that I think the girls struggle with the changes and bearing in mind that their dad is not always there and if he is it would appear that they are always entertaining therefore the girls don't get any quality time with their dad. Quite often when I ask the girls if they've had a good weekend with their dad they will say it was ok but so and so were there to visit.
I hope this gives you enough background to our situation,
We've tried mediation. He insists that I communicate by phone and do a weekly handover call but in that call he is controlling and patronising. I've tried doing e-mail handovers and copying in his wife who appears to be doing all the arrangments anyway and I've been accused of being nasty, vicious and not co-operative. To be honest I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do for the best.