Thank you for your question
My name is Clare and I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first.
How often has he seen the child is the last three months
I couldn't tell u exactly as it changes from week to week, he can easily see her for a couple of hours and then nothing for 2 weeks but then could see her 3 times a week, but these can be as little as half an hour, throughout the summer he saw her for 7 hours in total as I asked if I could take her away for the summer and he said no so I wanted to know exactly how long he spent with her
What contact do you think would work for your daughter?
I think supervised contact for a minimum of an hour per week as less than that I do no think is fair
When he took the child from you did he threaten not to return her?
yes, he shouted across the road that if I rang police I would never find them, I rang the police immediately and he then tried ringin me but I couldn't answer and later when I spoke to him once it had calmed down he said he was ringing to tell me the same thing, he then got his sister to look after her for a little while so that when the police turned up at his they couldn't bring her back to me
When did that happen?
I think it was June, but he has taken her before aswell
Given the incident in June it is not unreasonable to apply for a Residence Order to ensure that your child is always returned at the end of contactIt would also be sensible to agree to a set pattern of contact.This will not ensure that he always turns up - but it will ensure that you can say than unless it is a contact weekend then he cannot have her.If you wish to make the application then you will need this formhttp://www.thecustodyminefield.com/CourtForms/C100.pdfand the fee is £215.
Sorry that went more quickly than it should.
It is reasonable for you to ask for a regular pattern of contact to be established - say a few hours once a week.
It will be harder for your to insist that it happens at a contact centre given the fact that it has not been restricted in the past
But if there is a record of threats then this will assist
does he have to agree or will he be told this, can he argue that he doesn't want me to have a residence order?
You have to apply to the court and he will have the chance of opposing it.
ok thank you
However the June incident - and any threats that he has made since - makes it likely that the court will say that an order is necessary