I suffer a lot with psychicatric issues namely depression. I have also had an eating disorder (I am the right weight for my height but he calls me fat and tells me I am useless yet I am the sole income earner. On the 6th Nov he punched and kicked me and ripped my hair out leaving cuts & grazes. He is so clever at covering his tracks and has alleged I assaulted him which is utter rubbish and there are no injuries on him because it never happened but there are on me which I have had documented. He has also raped me when I have been under the influence of alcohol. I have 2 beautiful boys aged 6 & 2 and when I saw them at the weekend the eldest was most definitely showing the signs of depression. I want the children in mine & my sisters care as I have seen him be physically and psychologically awful to them - he tried to run me over twice once while I was pregnant (witnessed by my neighbour) and earlier on this yar with both kids in the car. I got maried on 28.04.06 - please help - its my house I pay all the bills and take responsibility for everything.
Other than my children no. I am staying at my sisters because this is my bail address or I would be homeless - even though I am the sole owner of tjhe mortgage and property - please can you just answer my original question. I don't feel this is really helping.
We have both had joint responsibility but in the past he has tried to make allegations against me then withdrawn them to keep me 'under control' and keep him not working. Of course if someone has been arrested chilrdens services think I am at fault and he was given 'parental responsibility' though we continued to live together and I did a lot more for the children both financially and emotionally than he has and I don't think this has gone unnoticed. Please answer asap - much appreciated Julie
I have pleaded not guilty to the court today, am filing for divorce and will also put in a criminal complaint of physical and psychological abuse from him to me.
No we have been together since Dec 2003 he moved into my home in april 2004 we had our first child in sept 2006 and the second in June 2011. As I was not happy with his lack of interaction/stimulation with the children I paid for qualified child care via nurseries so I could continue to work in the knowledge they were getting the best quality care to help them develop. He has never made any contribution to child care costs or indeed anything. There have been times in the evenings when I have HAD to work and at weekends and he has had them then. Don't get me wrong he has not been totally dreadful to me or them - but the abuse he has given me and them particularly mentally is disgraceful. I am STILL paying all the bills while he sits on his laptop playing games at home but that's about the size of it. Thanks for your quick response
Well supervised but only because of the allegation he has made and with the complaint I am going to put in we could both end up with them in care. To be honest Claie I have filed for divorce today as this process is just taking too long and i am getting worried about the situation and I don't seem any closer to getting an answer to my original question - sorry if that sounds brash but i have been doing some homework myself today.
Thats fab Clare thank you so much - that's all I wanted to know. Quite how things will change now I make a counter allegation I don't know - but your answer has been me food for thought thank you very much and for your patience at this difficult time.