The outcome was that the police called him and reminded him that he was responsible for returning my son to me at the end of the weekend. they also called me before and after the pick up to ensure that everything was fine.
The number of emails is sporadic as it depends on his moods. I tend to get a barrage over a few weeks, and then it will go quiet for a few weeks.
I have spoken to the police again this week as it's making me really stressed and feeling ill. They have suggested that I get something in place to regulate when he is allowed to email me, and the subjects that he is allowed to approach. They have said that as it's conversational (i.e. I reply to him factually) it is a case of nuisance messaging rather than harassment.
The emails generally accuse me of not allowing him contact with our son, and as this is incorrect I feel obliged to answer with a factual answer. I am very concious not to be rude, or personal in responses. I have no interest in restricting access between him and my son, as it wouldn't benefit anyone, but I would like to work out how to restrict the ex husbands access to me. I changed my phone numbers just over a year ago to stop nuisance phone calls and he argues that his current argument is that he should be able to call his son.
The set pattern is alternate weekends he spends with his Dad, he will pick him up from school on a friday and I meet him in the same public spot at 6pm on a Sunday to collect him and bring him home. I also give my some the phone to call his Dad on Wednesday's at 7 pm and on the Sundays when he spends the weekend with me at 7pm. Sometimes his Dad can't answer and I get abusive emails that he doesn't have a number to call him back on. I understand it must be frustrating but can't give my number out again as my ex husband abused it so badly previously
no. I've always said that the child comes first and I'll always talk to him about welfare etc, but he twists such queries with me to get attention to his own feelings. I'd like to ignore all emails but don't want this to get me into trouble. I also don't know if I have an obligation to discuss welfare etc with him? To me, the school is set for the next 5 years, childcare is in place, maintenance agreed, and visits agreed.
I set up a shared hotmail calendar to input school holiday childcare as this is split across us, but he never inputs into it. I add the days that I need him to take charge of our son, and the pick up times and venues. I always do this about 4-5 months in advance to allow for planning