I believe it is 2 hours at a contact centre every other Saturday...not supervised but constrained to the Centre only. My daughter delivers her
son and waits and then collects him.
Re: Problems at the Centre ....my daughter did challenge her son's father about comments he made to the child about "black faces = bad; white faces = good" which confused and upset her little boy". He responded very aggressively and his behaviour frightened both mother and child. No repeat of the racist comments have occurred, as far as can be known.
Re CAFCASS report. A report was requested, produced and submitted to the court. My daughter had compiled an extensive log and account of all the factors leading up to her going into a Refuge whilst pregnant and certain events in the child's first year. My daughter believes that the Court is unaware of much of the detail that elevates the risk to the child of unsupervised contact...or has dismissed some of this information as merely unsubstantiated allegations and not evidence. This, of course, is true but this doesn't mitigate the risks to her son's well-being. How does
common sense prevail?
Since the episode about black faces and white faces (see above) was reported by the child to his mother (my daughter) and the row which ensued, he has been "on his best behaviour". He did not expect his three year old son to mention his remarks as he had sworn him to secrecy (hence the anxiety and upset for the little boy). He (the father) realised he may well have damaged his case for contact. He is now behaving reasonably well but the child displays no real enthusiasm for seeing his father. Unfortunately he is a large chap with a rather menacing appearance and demeanour.
There have, to my knowledge, been no other incidents.
CAFCAS recommended a progression of contact from Observed;
Supported; to Supervised (or whatever is the normal progression).
This was not observed by the father (he has legal aid, my daughter does not have legal aid!) and his barrister was extremely aggressive and
even "blocked" my daughter having a Residency Order which the Judge
agreed (denied the Residency Order). They are pushing hard for unsupervised contact...that is to take the three year old child away...even
overnight visits...he has no transport....and is not fit and has no experience of looking after any child, let alone a sensitive little boy.
All my daughter's revelations about this man's views/values/behaviours are dismissed as "not evidence" and even scurrilous. Nevertheless,
the child would be at risk and the judge told her that the father's right of contact took precedence. Please....what can my daughter do to protect her son? The system is failing her. She has complained in writing to the Court that she did not get a fair hearing (not allowed to speak even when representing herself) and she feels that she has alienated the judge who is not at all sympathetic nor concerned. What can she do? PLEASE!