Thank you for your question.
My name is XXXXX XXXXX I will do my best to help you but I need some further information first.
For clarity can you confirm how many nights they spend with him each fortnight? Are you living in the house that you have always owned?
Are you willing to start divorce proceedings?
Thank you for this. My youngest son Isaac spends two nights a fortnight with him. My eldest son Seb ( his step son ) doesn't sleep over at all. He is under a very complicated court order with his birth father where he is not allowed to sleep over at his birth fathers house and for him to sleep at his step fathers house would put it in jepoardy. My husband Andy has agreed to this so sees Seb on a Wednesday night for a few hours along with his brother and he also sees him on a Sunday for a few hours when he drops Isaac off.
I'm living in the house I've always owned ( I have a mortgage on it) I bought this two years before Andy moved in. He had his house for three years before he moved into mine. He rented his house out and went back to live in when we split up.
I want to start divorce proceedings but don't know if I have to go to mediation. He wants to as he believes he pays me too much even though he came up with the figure. Can I start divorce proceedings without mediation. I really need to know what I'm entitled too before I start anything such as maintenance, spousal support , pension? I feel that if I get the £500 a month I will not go for spousal support or part of his pension but I need to guarantee that amount continues.
zero equity in his and £50 000 in mine. He has never said that he wants us to sell the houses and split the profit. He knows I will not be able to get another mortgage as I earn £6900 a year.