Neither - he made the offer some months after the split and when the mother (my daughter) was trying to get some contribution from him and was suggesting mediation to agree an equitable arrangement. Divorce proceedings have not yet been initiated. PS - probably not relevant but we found he does have a child from an earlier relationship and was under a CSA order to pay £5 a week for that child so I guess £450 makes my daugher the fortunate one.
We don't know - his father is his accountant and he works through his own business so has always declared a very low salary - as far as we know - which is why we didn't bother fighting for more maintenance or any alimony through the courts. When he was doing contract Chef work he was invoicing over £600wk a lot of the time, but from the limited company, but shortly before that, declared such low earnings that CSA only assessed him for a £5 weekly payment for the previous child. He is now 'in business' in Birmingham and we have no information at all regarding what company he works through, it's profitability, the directors earnings etc. He does seem to go on holiday and change his car a lot but perhaps it is unfair of me to look at it like that.
Yes. The first child was born before the marriage, the second after. He announced it was over just before the second turned 1 in January last year, after only 20mths married. The main concern now however is that he insists he is going to take them to Spain for two weeks and we are very unhappy about this given the children are so young. We don't want to refuse unreasonably, but think it would be better in a couple of years when the children are a bit older. We are not sure if we have the right legally to refuse however, if it went to court.
Thank you very much - we believe he has now (today) gone ahead and booked the trip so we will now no doubt have a long protracted argument with him over whether they should or should not be allowed to go. Can you tell me whether, if he takes them away for the week in the UK as she suggested, and if he professes it all went well but she still feels uncomfortable with them going abroad, she can still then reasonably (in the eyes of the law) say no based on their ages or would that look as if she was backtracking having put it down as an initial condition?