Yes they enjoy being with me. They didn't want to move away from the area and their family and friends.
Currently the 16 and 11 year old live with me, the 14 and 9 year old live with their mother in Felixstowe. Originally there was an order in place that prevented her moving away with the kids but then the judge at the time decided there wasn't an issue with the boys being split up 2 with me and 2 with their mother. I objected to them being split up but it went ahead with the access arrangements being put in place.
The 14 year old has stated on more than one occasion he wants to move back to Newcastle but is torn as he doesn't want to leave his other brother behind.
Last night again I found out that my ex is refusing for the boys to come up in February week as she doesn't have time to bring them, however her parents are going down to visit from the Thursday until the Monday of that week and has agreed that the 11 year old who lives with me can go down and miss a days school on the Monday.
I've suggested that I would go and collect the boys from her house and bring them back or meet her half way to collect them and for them to go back down with their grandparents on the Thursday but she isn't having this at all and is refusing again. (I am prepared to speak to the school about 1 days absence from school).
Social services have been involved but have been no help to me at all they have been biased towards her all the time.
My ex doesn't seem bothered that she doesn't see the boys that live with me, infact she has hardly seen the 16 year old at all, I think she has seen him once in the last 3 years. However I want to see all the boys, I want them to rebuild their relationship as this is breaking down which is not right as they need each other