Sorry for the delay in responding.
I have my daughter on a Monday and Tuesday and drop her to school on Wednesday morning. Her dad picks her up from school and then has her Wednesday and Thursday. We alternate the weekend (for the period Friday, Saturday and Sunday; she is with me for this period one week and then her dad the next). This has been the arrangement for approximately 6 1/2 years, however is varied at times to accommodate out of routine events, for example if she goes away with her auntie or my mum and during school holidays (for the last few years I have had her the majority of the time as her dad works full time), or if either her dad or I have something on and need the other to cover that time.
Generally speaking this works fine and my daughter is happy with and used to this, but as she gets older there seem to be more and more issues arising (such as those mentioned), which her dad and I do not agree upon and he frequently makes decisions in this regard without consulting me first (for example I feel strongly that she is too young for face book but as he went ahead and did it without discussion first I wasn't able to give my views on it; and do not think it appropriate that she is in his profile picture for a dating website, a fact I was only made aware of by chance).
I appreciate there is a communication issue here! but he has a strong personality and considers himself able to make decisions without discussing with me first (I don't think it appropriate that my daughter has to make me aware of things especially as I don't want her to think she has to 'keep secrets' or to feel like she has 'caused trouble' when we disagree on something), which is why I asked the question.
I hope this answers your query but if not please let me know.
I just wanted to say thank you for your answer, which was very helpful and has given me some direction as to how to deal with these issues.
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