next hearing 16th May 2014.
Ideally, joint residency. Realistically, continuation of the current but actually getting what I was granted and NOT her continually flouting the order with impunity.
How I go about this when SHE can get aid and I cannot is what I fail to understand. I had a solicitor but she told I was no longer allowed legal aid and would now need to pay yet my ex continues to get this so she will continue to do as she wishes.
Holidays are supposed to be shared equally but the last summer holiday (as an Example) consisted of 48 days. She offered me 18 then upped it to 21. This is meant to be a 50/50 split. On week long holidays of 9 days I get 4 and she gets 5. Again, in her opinion, this is fair and if I don't like it then I can take her to court, (her words). Last Christmas was a 2 week holiday. I was given 4.5 days contact.
when our daughter starts school the short weekend is to stop and be replaced by an overnight stop midweek were I collect our daughter from school at then end of the day and take her to school the following morning. My Ex wants this amended to a few hours contact midweek only, I assume by that she means collect her from school but return her sround 7 or 8 the same night.
I am currently unemployed though I am doing what ever temporary jobs I can get until I get back into full time employment.
Copy of excerpt from the court order
( a ) Week1 - Friday 10 am to Saturday 6 pm .Week2 - Friday 9 am to Sunday 6 pm .Week2 commencing 20th July 2012 .( Once Abigail starts school, times changing to Friday after school to Monday drop off at school on an alternate weekend basis and midweek overnight contact to replace the Friday to Saturday contact ).(b) One week during Summer 2012 ( see paragraph 5 below ) , there after leading to school holidays being shared equally . ( For the avoidance of doubt normal contact in paragraph 2 ( a ) above is suspended during holidays).(c) Such further contact as may be agreed between the parties.(d) If contact is missed for good reason, e.g illness , then it shall be replaced.
yes, But I don't know how she is getting it.
she got it the same time as myself when we separated and she applied for a divorce back in 2012. I, however , am , apparently, no longer entitled to it, while she continues to receive aid.
my apologies. that should have read September 2011 and not 2012. that was when she left (August )and took our daughter with her forcing me to go to a solicitor just to see Abigail as she would not let me see her or even know where she was. I still don't know where she actually lives and do not have a phone number for her. All contact is via a communications book (her mother actually writes in the book, my ex has NEVER written in it0 and I collect my daughter from her mothers home.
not physical but mental and financial abuse. Yet she was the one who hit me and our child. that was why I left work. To look after our baby because I feared for her safety when she was with her mother. I still have fears as she has come to on numerous occasions with bruises and burns. yet CAFCASS say their is no evidence of mistreatment.
yes but she was seeing a doctor about panic attacks when I first met her. she could hardly go outside with getting worked up. She was suicidal at one stage but I helped her through this (I thought) but she says she's not the maternal type and left all the cleaning/washing/tidying in the house to me as she (was a 21st century woman) -her words- and she didn't do housework. She didn't do any babywork either as she took her to my mums when she needed anything doing. I have no idea how she is coping now. at home I would return from work to find her in the kitchen having a full blown argument with no one there. Then, when i came in she started continuing the argument with me as if |I had been there all the time. I told her she needed to see the doctor but the next thing I knew she had taken our child and gone beck to her mothers. For a few days she said, to get her head together. 2 months later, after contacting a solicitor to try and find out what was happening and to see my daughter I get a letter from her solicitor saying that after a great deal of thought she had decided that she wanted a divorce.
I thought that the original order HAD set the holidays in stone. seems to me that she can do as she pleases so long as she knows i can't afford to take her to court