Although they having been "dating" for about three years, he is in the forces, and only gets 60 days a year leave, even then his own family live 100 of miles away from my ex, so we can only assume some of that leave is spent with his own immediate family.
They do now have a son together but this is all part of my ex`s master plan.
Since our split in Dec, as I said before, she allowed myself and my family normal contact with the children( my children spending most weekends at my parents house) for the following 5 months,
But when I voiced concerns that she was only letting me see the children when it suited her , and also I started demanding the £30,000.00 from her bank account (money that I had saved over the years from work,,, she never worked while we were together,,,savings that she had persuaded me to put into her account while we found a high interest bank account !!) the next thing I knew was that she was taking me to court to stop me from seeing them.
(Never did get any of the money back !!)
This was the beginning of her master plan, she then told me that this was the last time myself or any of my family would see the children again.
During theXXXXXhearing, a caffcas officer was appointed to do a supervised contact session with myself and the children, for the first two sessions it was reported" that the children were happy and at ease in my company, and that they both agreed they would like to see me again. "
By the third session, the mother said they would no longer be coming to the sessions as she believed the caffcas officer was" emotionally abusing " the children by making them see me.
The mother got the officer off the case and a new guardian was appointed.
By this time the children had turned totally against myself and my family, saying they wanted nothing to do with any of us.
Remember the last time we actually had any contact with the children they were 4/6 yrs, by the end of the hearing they were 6/8yrs, and as they both by this time were saying they hated us all (the youngest depicting a picture of himself "shooting his Dad, and dropping bombs on his Nannie") the Judge went along with the guardian in her recommendations of refusing contact.
Months later my ex requested through the CSA I stop all payments.
Now years later she hooks up with this new guy, and decides to put the final nail in the coffin by applying for adoption.
Filling in all the required criteria
No parental responsibilities
Not financially supporting my children.
Not having had any contact for 5 years.
My ex is VERY clever I will give her that!!
She has known exactly how to work the system.
Master plan accomplished.
To mention every trick in the book that she has tried, over the years would take too much of your valuable time.
So that brings us to now,,,,,
Even if you can`t offer any more help or assistance, it has been good to feel that someone out there was listening , or even caring ,, just for a short while.
Many thanks for just being there.