Hi Clare, we both share day to day as we also work together, although because of working in a shop our son is with me upstairs during the day more than downstairs on the shop floor with my partner. Night time we see him tandem. At the moment my partner doesn't want me to have our son full stop. When I said there was no way he would be able to take my son away from me he hastily said "fine once a month". When I mentioned yesterday that I would like him Tuesday morning to Friday morning he went crazy and said no way. The reason I suggest those times is because his parents see our son on occassion on Sundays to Mondays and I have to take the other two boys to see their dad in Essex once a month on a Friday which is too long a trip for such a young child. Although what I really think is best so that the boys can see their brother more is we have him Sunday morning to Wednesday Morning. I am bending over backwards to please my partner but he just isn't interested. He blames me entirely for the breakup of the family and for the demise of the business. He doesn't understand why I want to do this. We have had a tough 3 years with our business basically "going down the toilet" and closing completely on the 5th April. So we will both be unemployed. My partner is also in constant pain in his back and taking Tramadol to relieve it (but it only takes the edge off). He's been on Tramadol for 10 years and I know it causes anger issues, particularly if he misses a dose and therefore in a lot of pain and suffering withdrawal from it. He also has constant headaches for a form of Epilepsy and is on tablets every day for that also. I know he takes it out on me the pain he is in, but I can't keep accepting it and his belitting. Although I know he loves our son dearly and he wouldn't hurt him I am worried about him being capable of looking after our son when he is in so much pain and unfortunately it is only going to get worse.
Yes I believe so. Although he struggles to bend down sometimes and hold him for lengthy periods.
I think there will be. My partner won't be able to play with him on the floor or run around after him as a parent should. He has had a spinal fusion of the lower vertebrae so can't bend over as a person should, and his legs collapse on occasion when he is walking due to messages not going up the spinal cord properly. My concern also is if he has a fit from his epilepsy. It is unlikely as the meds stop it from happening, and he has not had a fit before. But there is supposedly a risk if he skips a dose. But I won't be there for our son if he does.
It would make sense but my partner is being very unreasonable and will not budge. I don't even think mediation will work. If it were to go to court what are the chances that it would lean more on my side regarding my partners health?