Please forgive the delay in replying.
The Court Order was made in 2003, at which time I was paying £400 a month spousal maintenance and £500 a month for my 3 sons. The order stated that this amount increased yearly according to the RPIndex. This increase stopped at £1024 in approx 2005 as I was struggling to pay. I am aware that at this point I could have asked that the payments go through the CSA, but I wanted to provide a consistent and secure amount. I have paid this amount without fail eversince, despite a fluctuating (and sometimes minimal income). I also pay my eldest sons car insurance of £87 a month, which she currently has sole use of, her life insurance and half of all school trips amounting to a total of £500 already this year.
Last month my ex-wife asked that I increase the monthly amount to £1,277 in line with the court order and the RPIndex. Also, that I pay the arrears in lump sums on my two youngest sons 17th birthday and when my eldest son approaches 'the barr' in 2016. All of this I have agreed to. However, she has now decided to seek advice from her solicitor who has asked for my P60 and last 3 pay slips. I have provided my P60 which shows an income of £41,000. I have not provided my payslips. One because I don't see why she should know my income. Two because it shows that for the last 3 months I have earnt £3,700 a month (before tax), this will give an unrealistic amount over a year, as I am now just about to become freelance again and my income will fluctuate. I do not wish to provide a fluctuating amount of money.
Do I legally have to provide this information?
Can she insist that we go through the CSA.
Am I being unfair and unreasonable?
The children are 11, 14 and 19 (at Uni). They spend every Saturday with us during the day. We have requested every third weekend for the whole weekend as well as every Saturday, but she says that the boys dont want to do this. However, when we ask the boys if they would like to stay overnight they nearly always say yes.
I work in London during the week and they live in Somerset so it is very difficult to see them during the week.
Thank you. COuld you also please advise as to whether or not I have to pay maintenance for my eldest son who is 19 and studying at university or if it is acceptable to support him seperately with direct payments into his bank account?
Thank you. If payments go through the CSA does this mean that we still have to do this?
Do we have to apply to the courts to before we can ask the CSA for an assessment?
I'm really sorry I've just realised that my email is rather ambiguous and unclear.
As stated in previous emails we currently pay maintenance as instructed by the Court Deed dated November 2003. If we would prefer payments to be via the CSA, do we have to apply to the courts who 'rubber stamped' the order first?