Hi, thanks, XXXXX XXXXX help.
My father was diagnosed a couple of years ago as being in the early stages of Alzheimers. My mother died nearly six years ago and he's never recovered from his grief e.g. he still refers to her as 'being out shopping'. However, to a stranger he seems quite 'normal'; it's only when you dig deeper that you realise he has little/no short term memory so in answer to your question No, unfortunately, no PoA in in place as the diagnosis happened almost accidentally when we were trying to get the GP to help him through the bereavement process.
My father is a very private person; refuses to go out - possibly slightly agrophobic but probably just being stubborn. He has even been known to turn the GP away from the door but a carer calls twice a day now to check he's OK.
The difficulty, of course, is that whilst he's probably very anxious at the time of all the rows between my brother and his wife by the following day he can't remember them. I recently asked him how things were and he said he thought they were 'getting on better' whereas from talking to my brother that's far from reality.
My brother admits his wife does not like my father (due to a certain incident 12 months ago, resulting in her being taken away by the police); she only tends to stay over at w/e's (stays in bed till lunch-time; won't cook, clean, help around the house in any way), goes back to live with her own parents during the week and refuses to work (was on JSA until the time deadline ran out).
Sorry for all the additional information but I know my dad likes his peace and quiet so would like to help him if I can. (Am 300 miles away.)
My brother talks of divorcing her but last night he told me she wants to 'try again'; he seems to have no concept that he has any choice in the matter....
Any/all ideas/advice very much appreciated!