Firstly the kids , Kenneth, 10years, very unhappy with his mother, Jasmine 9, Sophia Rose 6 and Christian 7.
My X partner frequently breaches the contact order, which has been placed via a lengthy court process with contact being assessed by social services via vourt process and again recently as she has requested a court hearing . I also wish to =change the residence status for the children as she uses them witholding contact, against me , having a very detrimental effect on the childrens emotional state, esp Kenneth the oldest. His relationships with her has recently been very openly demonstarted to the social services. hence I would like the residence status reviewed due to firstly kids unhappiness and secondly her abuse of the contact order on a repeated basis.
this has happened before when 18months ago she recieved a probationery period 6weeks from the magistrate.
Debts, house and revenue, mainly house debts , excess of 500000.
Current income app90thousand per annum. however most of that goes to furnish debts and it will seriously reduce in between one and two months, so large maintenance payments will be unfurnishable.
She has no declared income.
Mtrimonial home has been reposessed with a shortfall of 300000.
She has breacherd the contact order by retaining the children.
Social services are involved only in respect of further court appearance and have not advised her to breach the order, in fact the oppositte.
On previous occasions I have gone to school to pick them up and she has appeared at which point rather than put kids through the obvious turmoil I left- seven week period last year and now over one month this year. Due to her request to alter my contact social services have arranged 4 meetings for an hour or two with the kids and I but are happy after two and have seen the effect on the kids with them constantly talking about wanting to stay and the oldest , befotre he had seen me btw, avoiding mother and cursing about her, which i dont condone but he was very emotional , this all occurred at the first social services meeting.
secong meeting kids wouldnt leave my side. Social worker has basically seen no need for further meetings and as such I presume will do a favopurable report for the court. My issues with current arrangement are of its ongoing abuse and having seen my x relationship with her parents breakdown and from my own experience this situation will continue to the detriment of my children.
Apparently she is trying to vary contact. TBH she may be advised against this as the socia; services arent in favour.
I would like to apply to change residence.
I have only been told that she is putting it before the court .
As i am unable to fund further representation I knew that she would do thuis when i was vulnerabvle.
Practice, well bankrupcy, i know that i can continue to practise as a dentist but the bank will poses the building and unless a deal can be made with them, i will loose the premises.
i also have no idea how i can afford high spousal maintenance if awarded, tbh if she had been sensiblke id have gived her whati could in maintenance.
Se has lied in attempts to get me in trouble, to the point where I had to video kids drop offs with a discrete camera, which was sent to the pps on several occasuions to clear me. Until eventualy dec12 she lied , got a friend to lie for her, but there was good public CCTV and an officer who had been dealing with the case looked up the cctv before he approached me and on seeing the evidence that was admissable, he recommended a perversiobn of justice xchrge against her. The pps dropped this saying that she'd get away with it due to 'stress', she could be seen on camera laughing and giggling in waiting area on camera , it was borderline .
She has since accused some guy of rape, two years ago, hauled him into high court, the defence called on me at which point she dropped the case against him. hope this gives some feel as to the person that i am dealing with. Borderline personnality disorder.
not sure yet i will ask at next meeting.
oldest boy weants tio be with me. She is sore on him because he favours myself- I havent promoted that with the kids.
other kids more balanced.
well currently she has a business degree and I put her through a ptraining coarse last year of marriage.
Could work whilst kids at school or with me.Prob 20k per annum.
working 3 day week.
I work mornings that i have the kids and late nights when i dont.
I do want to reduce my hours for kids and currenlty been working long hours to try avoid bamkrupcy.
no reason that she cant do the same,
1500 per month spousal maintenance and 60percent of my pension
Thats their proposal. dont know its not just but then thats her
im going bankrupt and finacial situiation will change completely
How do i apply for residence order, and my income will be reducing , it is not a proposal.
Not sure what happens as if she is awarded large maintenance payment they wont be met