Previously: His partner would make herself available for the Sunday drop offs, and where possible the Friday collections from the childminder's, if she was unavailable (due to work commitments) my x- travelled by Train, (approx. 45 minute journey and a 20minute walk from the station) His partner has advised as she works she cannot support the Friday collection and that sustainability cannot be assured with my x having to travel by train. On interview I have discussed this with CAFCASS and she advised in her opinion she did not feel that was a relevant point.
It is the language of the CAFCASS report that has really unnerved me..
"Ms ..does not drive and on this basis refuses to assist with transport"!
"I am concerened that Ms... is rigid in her requirements for contact, particularly since Mr... and Ms ... will be managing the majority of the transport arrangements"!
I proposed three options neither which included myself meeting half way and that collection/drop off would be up to his father.
1) Fornightly Friday to sunday, as previous, collection and drop off their responsibility.
2) Three weekly Saturday to Sunday, collection and drop off their responsibility
the rational being that fornightly sat to sun with a three hr round trip means the weekends where I have respite are not spent travelling back and forth to accommodate access.
I re-emphasise I am doing 100% of the parenting without any support network friends / family, although I dearly love my child this is both stressfull and exhausting and my respite is invaluable to managing this.
I do not consider this unreasonable or "rigid".
And I am refusing half way because of the time and expense associated is inappropriate in the circumstances.