I've left my wife. English is not her first language. I want to complete the forms for her so she can petition me for divorce. Can youcheck the forms for me? I tried to insert 3 files here.
Thanks Clare. Do the other 2 forms look OK?
We haven't formally agreed anything about money etc. ALL the boxes in 10 (3), (a) and (b)? Not clear how these "orders" could be made by the court without a lot more information about incomes etc, which is not provided for on the forms. Can you explain?
Hm I should have mentioned that we were in contact before. Can you
access the old case?
If not, no matter, here's a summary:
1. I left her last August
2. I'm paying the mortgage where she and the kids are living - it's in my sole name. I'm also paying rent for my place.
3. I paid a lot in support in the initial months , but now she's on benefits, I have stopped. She says she doesn't have enough to live on , though, and is asking for an extra £300 a month. I (stupidly, because I always end up agreeing to her requests on the phone, just so I can get off the phone and not be pestered) agreed to this, just the other day, even though I can't really afford it.
Now I am going to say that I will pay the £300 (as stated in the forms you've see). If she doesn't agree to petition me, I am planning to say that I will petition her, but I won't be able to pay the £300 (for many months, even a year) because the money will be going on court fees and legal fees.
Q1 Does that make sense to you?
I have spent a fortune on mediation, but this has got us nowhere at all. In the mediations she gets hysterical and won't discuss properly.
She is on Employment Support Allowance so can avoid paying court fees.
Q2 If I send her all these documents and she agrees, can she send them back to ME and I take them to the court? Or must she do that?
Q3 I have tried to help her with the benefits application. I didn't actually see an official letter informing her she is on ESA though. Can she just take along the swathes of correspondence from the benefit people, which taken together make it clear she is claiming? Or is it a specific document that she needs?
(If I can take the documents myself, I suppose I could always just pay for her and cut my losses; I'd still be saving a lot)
I am paying the mortgage which is 1205 a month, that is about half my salary. I am still paying her water rates (65), mobile (20) and broadband/phone (25-30). I transferred all the other bills into her name a couple of months ago.
As you read, I've agreed to pay 300 a month (in which I intend to include the 110-115 in the previous paragraph). But I am saying that if she will not divorce me, which she can do at no cost, I will use that 300 a month for my legal costs until it is all paid for and only then pay the 300 to her. So if I have 1200 in legal fees, she will have to wait 4 months.
Even if she doesn't agree, I will still pay for the next 2 months, as she has a 600 utility bill which she claims she can't pay and I don't want their power cut off.
And in practice I will have to continue paying the 110-115 bills anyway.
Yes I will be paying the mortgage whatever happens. She has no way to pay it, and the kids have said in mediation that they want to stay there.