He loves coming to stay with us as we entertain him and involve him in our family life. More than that, he tells us he enjoys coming. He loves the fact that we play cards/board games/football etc. with him as he doesn't get that kind of interaction at home. He has complained recently of being "constantly nagged" at home and having to "do chores all the time". He has said he likes coming over too because we get up in the morning rather than staying in bed and leaving him to his own devices until the afternoon which is what happens at home as his mum and step dad stay in bed until late morning. He has also mentioned that they (mum and step dad) argue all the time which is another reason he has said he likes coming over to us.
He spends a lot of time at his house in his bedroom with his Xbox/TV etc. His older brother left home in September to go to university and he hasn't seen him since - he didn't even come home for Christmas!
His mum holds a lot of information from him like the fact that his dad has asked if he can come over, she won't let him buy his dad birthday presents and has also in the past sent him with messages for his dad to buy him new shoes etc. despite regular and generous maintenance being paid.
She has lied to both of them and basically is as awkward as she can possibly be. A couple of years ago my partner was involved in a car accident on his way to pick his son up. He was OK but taken to a local service station as his car was written off. He called his ex wife who was only 14 miles away to ask her to bring their son to the service station so he could get a lift back home. She refused because she was due to go out for a meal! Instead, she left her 10 year old son unfed at a neighbour's house for him to pick up when my partner's friend had driven the 70 miles to pick him up from the service station, picked his son up from the neighbour's and then driven the 70 miles back home again.
Just a little insight for you! He is now at that age where he is realising what kind of a person she is I think...
Thank you in advance for your time.
Thank you. Can I ask who decides where this mediation would take place (I can't imagine her travelling over to have this discussion!)? My partner is concerned about having to involve his son directly as he doesn't want him to feel that he is under pressure or taking sides. What is the process? Does he get 'interviewed' as it were on his own so he doesn't feel he has to make on the spot decisions in front of both parents? I'm assuming the person dealing with his part of the process would explain that he would not be taking sides?