Did you get my reply to your question?
I seem to be waiting an interminable time for a response to my question initially posted at midday today.
Because I now live in Edinburgh and he in Hereford so the most contact would be 2 hours per month and as his mother is so resistant to contact and he so young I have decided to postpone direct contact until he is of an age that his view will be taken into account and I am financially in a better position to travel from Edinburgh to Hereford on a regular basis. I have settled in Edinburgh with my wife and out 8 month old son.
Hi Clare Can you confirm whether my ex needs to apply to court to amend the third party address stipulated by the court order?
Thank you Clare
I don't want to unnecessarily exacerbate matters by reopening the case but do not want to use the new third party address she has given as I have no trust in mail getting to my son from that address.
Can i write directly to the court with my concerns and ask that the court intervene showing the court the letter she has written telling me to use this other third part address which I do not believe is in the interest of my son?
Thank you Clare
On review I have decided to follow up on your earlier comment that I am entitled to refer the matter back to court as she lied about her address to try and tarnish my reputation as not being safe enough to have it when in fact she gave it to me - I have the written evidence. I think this change of third party address is her attempt to obfuscate matters as well as not abide by the court order. Do I write directly to the court to tell the court of my decision to refer the matter back to court? I have to date represented myself.
I want to explore my options.
Can I reopen the matter?
I want to at least ensure that indirect contact is secure and that I can write to my son at his home address as well as him having my address.
Many years ago I had a similar situation with my first two sons and though I was granted joint custody ( i.e. rights and responsibilities to me, care and control to mother) she made it impossible for me to have access to everyone's heartache. As the mother of my 5 year old son has been adamant from the beginning that I should have no contact I have decided to wait until he is of an age where his views are taken into account in court and until then maintain an indirect contact with him through writing and presents. It was a tough call but I think it is best in the circumstances.
My question is can I not simply write to the court and state that rather than accept a new third party address, that I have the right to write directly to my son at his home at the address that was given to me by his mother and that he has my address for when he wants to / is able to write to me?
Thank you. Is it not possible to seek an amendment to the court order to write to the home address rather than third party.
If she asks for a change of third party address by writing for a change of court order can I challenge this before a new court order is made?
my question is whether I wait and respond to her application for a change to the court order or make the initial application for change myself.?