thanks for your question
How often would you see your grandchildren before the access was stopped?
I looked after them every Wednesday from 9-5 whilst their Mum was at work and would quite often have them at weekends sometimes over night
thanks for letting me know
Has she appeared to believe you when you said that you would not bring your son into contact with the children?
And is this the only objection she has made you aware of?
Yes it is the only objection and no she does not appear to believe me . Prior to her stopping contact she would texty me to say the children were crying for me and could I see them for a few hours I did so whenever it was possible
Whilst I believe their Dad should have contact we both feel it is more important for the children that I have contact than none at all
Okay. Is your relationship with her good enough to see the children at her house or whilst she is present to start with so that she can see you mean it when you say that your son won't be around?
No which is why that isn't an option she is very angry and bitter when I try to talk to her she just shouts and doesn't care what she says in front of the children. Also the man she moved in with her and the children 6 weeks after the split is known to my Son .She told me I had to meet her at a play centre , I agreed as it would be public but then she stopped taking my calls or answering texts
Sorry to hear that things are so difficult
I accept that you have said you would be unable to finance a solicitor, but it appears to me that she has ended all direct contact with you which will make any further attempts on your own behalf very difficult and frustrating
Mediation is always an option to try and find a solution, but that too has a charge
and also depends on both people in attendance having a positive and productive attitude
As things are still in the fairly early stages of the separation, do you believe that there is any chance that she will calm down in time and allow contact?
No I don't, I am 58 years old I worked with vulnerable people and am used to negotiating with people , there appears to be no way forward without legal help. She holds all the cards and she knows it. The children are only 2 and 3 their Daddy has been replaced . She also has 2 older children aged 6 and 9 who have now had 2 new men in their lives in 4 years she has their Dad run ragged and has always used him as a baby sitter who she verbally abuses in front of his children all the time . Is there no assisted legal help available
Changes to the legal aid system in the last 18 months or so now mean that in order to obtain legal aid, there are very specific evidence requirements which need to show that there has been domestic abuse in a relationship between 2 people or that there are child protection concerns to the extent that the children are subject to a child protection plan, and a copy of that plan is required before funding can be granted, or subject to court proceedings in the last 2 years
I'm afraid that people in a situation such as you find yourself in are victims of the legal aid cuts and whilst the involvement of solicitors may assist - it won't be possible without making a payment of fees
I believe it s possible to represent myself in court
yes, it would be
The how do I go about that ?
changes to the family court process came into force last week, and we now, in England and Wales have a single family court - you need to make an application to your local court and you would then be sent to mediation
You need to apply for leave intially - that is permission of the court.
as a grandparent you do not have an automatic right to apply for court orders which is why the court needs to give you permission to do so
with the level of contact that you used to enjoy, I see no reason for you to be denied leave
Ok thank you I will look into that
I do hope you are able to enjoy contact with your grandchildren soon
Can I help with anything more before you are happy to leave a positive rating about our chat today?
okay - all the best to you
Sorry but I don't feel that you have told me anything I couldn't have got free
I would rather that a poor rating wasn't provided - there is nothing more to tell. It is not a poor service if you simply don't like the answer