Yes she does want the divorce, and the arrangements were based around both parents having history with alcohol and the decision to keep them both in the children's lives while everything was being sorted out. The wife has been tea total for over a year and the husband is still drinking.
So to confirm the timeline, in November last year childrens services and Cafcass in Swindon were dealing, Cafcass gave the social worker permission to produce the section 7 which she did and the residency arrangements were put into place until the sale of the family home which will not be for a while yet. There was also an occupation order but he didn't adhere to that. There was also a non molestation order given against him. At this time he tried, unsuccessfully to get the judge changed.
He then submitted his divorce petition to salisbury court ensuring a change of Judge, telling them that the childrens arrangements were that she had them for one night every other saturday along with with many other falsehoods. They were already living week on week off in the FMH.
Her (legal aid) solicitor told her to ignore it as he had filed in the wrong court and they would not be able to hear it as the childrens issues were already in play in Swindon, so she ignored it.
She then received in January a letter confirming application had been served. To which her solicitor said she would acknowledge but ignore as again it was in the wrong place.
She has now received notice that the decree will be issued next week and it states that there is entitlement to the decree for proven unreasonable behaviour, she has never had a form or statement to fill in and has never been allowed or asked to contest this petition.
It also says that the court does not need to exercise its power with the childrens act 1989, which is impossible as the children are subject to an order.
Tomorrow morning we are going to salisbury courts to have the decree halted on the grounds that it is false and in the wrong place and that we do not understand why no effort has been made to have her side of the story told, or why the court did not do more research into whether he was telling the truth about the children.
That is where we are, any advice for our journey tomorrow would be very helpful and please don't say get a solicitor as she has been abandoned by the last one and has nothing but the will and support of friends to support her, he has lied and stolen and left her destitute.
Thank you for any help you can give.
Thank you for your help.
1. Yes she wants to be divorced.
2. The divorce is on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour, the allegations are as follows:
2.1. That she has been an alcoholic from Jan 2010. (she had in fact sought help from her GP in 2011 and has been dry since April 2013)
2.2 Mental Health issues after the birth of the first child in 2005 (it is recorded that she suffered post natal depression after the second and third child not before)
2.3 That she has made at least three suicide attempts (she made one attempt/cry for help that is well documented and sought treatment immediately no other attempts have been made)
2.4. That she was a compulsive spender leading to business and personal debt of £100k. (She ran a profitable business for 15 years and had no debt, he cashed in over £100k of endowments without her knowledge and has bought land abroad to hide it, due to circumstances the business was in his name as a director even though he didn't work in it and he has taken everything)
2.5. That he has fallen out of love with her due to coping with the above.
Any party to the proceedings on the 22nd May, may be heard on the question of costs at the hearing.
I hope this helps, we will be leaving for Salisbury at approx. 10.30am, once again thank you for you help.
Thank you so much for that, we will go down there so as to set her mind at rest that it is dealt with however your advice is invaluable and of course it makes sense to go ahead with the decree so long as the correct information is there.
If we hit any more walls I will be in touch and as for her solicitor I will be instigating enquiries into the advice given.
Thank you once again.