Husbands income is approximately 50k not sure as he has changed jobs. But he is oncall so that is about right.
Assets i.e. house is approx 80k after all expenses.we already split family home and got a car each.
Pensions are not being touched at this point as main one existed prior to the relationship, but dropped in value due to equitable life but has now fully recovered.
My home is worth 200000 after expenses amd mortgage. His is worth 125k after expenses and mortgage.his pension is approx 200k and mine Is 40k.
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Think I've answered that 80 after expenses and mortgage
Maintenance is 530 and I've suggested 700 for fees but they are at least 1200 per month. I would have to find short fall which is not possible on my current salary (21k)
No divorce proceedings yet. I've just asked him to agree to a two year separation divorce.
He has the boys on average 1.5 nights a week (Wednesdays and every other weekend)
Are you based in north America?
Csa are Involved as he is a month in areers and stopped paying for two months but then caught up a month. So he is still behind a month plus a month in arears.
We do not pay Csa as it is only in an admin/instruction role.
How much would I be entitled to from the pensions
And how much maintenance could I receive for me?
I earn 21k pa
For bargaining purposes, Clare, how long would I be entitled to spousal maintenance?
Does that also mean that he is entitled to 50% of my pensions?
Can you clarify whether "while you were together" includes living together prior to marriage?
Does it make a difference if I can prove that I put. £65k into the Canadian property?
I have a deed of trust on my mother's house which is in her name and worth 250k. I paid for it out of my own income Predominantly prior to the marrage by buying a 3rd property and renting it out to pay both mortgages. Sold property and paid off my mother's mortgage and put cash lump sum iinto Canadian property. Would this impact the finances. I cant have the property until she dies and I'm sure as my mother is cantankerous she will write a will to leave it to the dogs home.
So what we're saying here is that the children don't have any rights to the schooling to which they became accustom and need now more than ever as it coming close to their exams? And the wife who earns peanuts trying to get the kids back into private school has to take sole responsibility for doing it despite it being. Joint decision prior to the splt?
I know this sounds emotive, but ultimately it's about. Money share and not how much I gave up to bring up the children which I thought was taken into consideration. I guess the only fair way forward is to use thwe bargaining chips to see if he will agree to pay 700pm towards the school fees and remortgage my house to pay for the fees, if that is even possible on my salary.
I have sent my estranged husband a letter seeking divorce under the 2 year separation and he has not replied. what is the cheapest way that I can obtain a divorce? Does he have to agree to the 2 year separation in order for this to be the way forward? What are the options if he simply ignores the emails? Can I do this by myself or do I need legal representation as this is very expensive?