Hello Clare. Sorry about my poorly structured scenario I read it after and realised it was a bit ranty. I usually structure my sentences better than that. She told me last night and I'm anxious my time with him is so important to me.
Anyway..no I take him to his grandfathers for lunch (that's where I'm living at the moment). I find being at his for prolonged periods difficult as this was the family home. Generally I pick him up 8.30 ish take him here for lunch then we go to the park or zoo for a couple of hours then I take him home for dinner.
His grandfathers house is a very respectful size (4 large bedrooms) in a very good neighbourhood. I envisage living here for a while until I can buy my own house. He would be able to have his own room here and obviously with the love and support of grandparents. Trouble is he's still breastfeeding. Which in my opinion at this stage is unneccessary but I respect the mothers choice.
I totally agree! He is actually 19 months next weeekend. Just morning and evenings. I actually put him to bed at his the other night without her breastfeeding. She went out. He was fine.