Yes he definitely is and he has told me as much: " I am not doing this for nothing you know" and, " as far as the tax man is concerned, she is my employer" and, "if it wasn't for looking after mother I wouldn't have had any money for the last 18 months." This situation was never discussed between us.
Historically we both worked in a small engineering business, owned by me, that suffered in the recession and as such is being wound down. Neither of us is directly employed any more. I am 67 and retired, he is 56.
We have never been very close and don't tend to talk about issues, so I have let this situation pass until now, when I just get the feeling I may well have been taken out of the picture entirely, particularly as my mother has always been more fond of my brother, whereas I tended to get along with my father more, when he was alive.
A few years ago my brother was declared bankrupt ( a tactical move) and at that time my parents will was made entirely over to me for safekeeping during the time the bankruptcy was running. Since my father's death a couple of years' back I imagine that a new will has been drawn up.
As my mother is not very well and is not likely to last much longer I am concerned to know what the situation is and if I have any claim, either to a residual or to the way the money has been administered before I approach him to put cards on the table, so to speak?