The boys are now 17, 18 and 20. I have no idea what he earns. He was a director at Portsmouth Football Club and now works for Barclays Wealth in Canary Wharf, London.
The agreement at the time stated that he would have to pay maintenance until they had finished with university.
My youngest son also has special needs which is why I have not been able to get employment.
I cannot believe that he should not be paying more considering the increased needs since the time of our divorce.
My ex husband seems to believe that any monies I receive from my father should cover all costs for the children.
I am sitting here and not quite sure what the next step is. I responded to your question but have had no reply.
Could you let me know whether you have received it.
A very difficult one to define. It took years of various experts and doctors to establish. To this day, I do not think there is a specific condition. He was finally diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum with clear signs of mild Aspbergers. He is emotionally and socially behind, fine motor and gross motor skills are also not where they should be for someone of 17. His understanding of how to cope in the world is simply not there. He cannot function alone in the real world. Money, public transport, looking after himself, personal hygiene, cooking etc are foreign to him. It is a long story but one that I do not think will help my original question. I am trying to establish whether I SHOULD have had more maintenance over the past 14 years. My ex husband seems to believe that the original settlement is enough to cover their needs 14 years later. I paid for every other need they had from uniforms, school trips, holidays, allowances, mobile phones, clothing, birthdays....basically everything over and above the money he sent.
Does the money I received from divorce settlement from my second husband play a part? Or the money I receive from my father to help support the children???? His income has not been looked at in over 14 years but he seems to think because I have funds or rather had, it is all my responsibility and that if I am struggling, I should go and get a job. A little bit difficult to find a job that fits in with looking after Finn and being a taxi driver to the two boys I have at home.
Thank you for your response. I appreciate that I cannot back date maintenance just wanted to clarify that I would have been entitled to more over the past 14 years. I also know that he is in within his rights to pay the older two directly. Which to be fair, he has done with our eldest son so far. Milo has only just completed his A Levels yesterday and I believe his father will be discussing the finances with him directly.
Regarding my youngest, please correct me if I am wrong, if Lucius were earning £ 150,000 + gross, 12% would have to go towards my youngest son Finn???
Regardless of the money I have received from my father and my previous divorce.
I'd like my money back...You have given me no more information than I already had.