My son's father is with another woman, he had 3 relationships before me and has 5 kids with who has no contact. I am not happy for him to have a contact with my 2 year old son. He lives life in a style not suitable for a child. Changing women, partying. It is not only that he was unfaithful but he is not able to be a family man I asked him to withraw his parental rights and live the life he chosen just not to drag my little boy into. He wants to have a contact and told me he will go to his solicitor. I am worried that he will be able to take my boy to his house and I only could agree for him to see my boy at my place under my supervision. I do not really want my son to be handed to strange woman and surrounded by strange women. What can I do now?
I am a single mum since my son was born. We lived together for just a couple of months, then I moved out and started renting a house. He lives only 5 min away from me. He told me we should take it slow and when ready then will be together. My son is 2 years old now. His father was coming everyday after work to give him a bath, exept Wednesdays as he was working long hours. He was doing whatever pleased him and suit him. Once was coming at 6 once at 7 . It was always different time. On saturdays sometimes was coming in the morning and was taking him for a walk, but if he worked for Terry at his garage, the was here at mine at about 3pm maybe 4. At the weekends we all were going for walks, or to KFC or to the shops. Mostly he was staying at my house and playing with little Max. Now when he gone to another woman, I do not want him take my son for walks or to his house, I can not stand another woman holding my little boy, or telling him what to do or what not. His father can not stick to one woman, and I do not want my boy to be drag into his life style, and be with strange women. I could agree on the contact once a week at 7pm like before , when he was giving him baths! I do not want him to take my son for weekends to his house and get involved the other woman in this. I want to be sure he is with my son alone when he plays with him. this is why I want the contact to be in my house so I can be sure no stangers are involved.
Thank you very much for your answer. I hoped that the court will take into an account his past and the fact that he left those other women with his children behind and I truly believe that by stopping the contact now i will save my son all the disappointments in the future. I am sure he will one day quit and will not be interested in having any relationship with my son what happened to his previous children.
If I have to, and I know I will have to allow him to see my son I would prefer him to come and stay in my house to have the contact with my little boy.
I am not quite sure how the court will look at the fact he is working as a probation officer and I have just lost my job working 8 years for the local council as a translator. They closed down the department. I hope it would not have any impact on me being the main carer for my son.
I have been thinking even of going back to my country to stay there permanently and maybe this would stop all the troubles with the contact. The only problem is i do not know how it would work for my son as his father is English and I am Polish.