Thank you for getting back to me. There is no dispute over time spent and we are both quite flexible. I have kept a journal since January to keep track of the times I have had him.
My ex does work. She is a teaching assistant so she is considered full time but has school holidays.
I am willing to split everything down the middle in terms of costs, time spent and benefits. The money is secondary in many respects. I mainly want rights. I will need access to the grants and funding if am going to be able to complete my degree though.
I am not sure what you mean by an Order. I was told at the job centre that child benefit can now be split between two parents but I don't know how to do this and if i need my ex to agree to anything. when I spoke to the student finance people they said I would need proof, like a reference number, that I receive some of the benefit for Oscar for them to process that part of the finance/grant.