Hi, we have lived together since being married in March 2007. We don't have any children together but my husband has three grown up adult children who don't live in the matrimonial home and never have since we have been together. They all have their own homes and his youngest is married. My husband is on a pension and he gets about £2000 a month before tax etc. I earn £1224 a month approx in my full time permanent job. My husband is paying for a new kitchen which costs him £250 month for the next 1.7 years approx. We both have cars which are over 10 years old so aren't worth much, maybe £500 each. I had savings of almost £10,000 before I married my husband, some of which I have managed to keep throughout the years. I have approx £6300 left in my bank account from my savings. My husband will be paying for one of his sons to do rehab soon which will cost approx £5000 if he completes it.
I earn £18450 a year, I made a mistake earlier and put an extra 0 on the end.
£52,00 at the most. I have asked for a reduction in the price as there is work needing done on the house totalling £4050. I have asked for £2000 reduction form the vendor and I am waiting for her response. If she agrees I will pay £5000 deposit.
I have been given a reduction in the price of the house so I am getting it for £50,000 so I am now putting down a deposit of £5,000. No I do not want to start divorce proceedings so it would probably be a separation with divorce in the future. Unless of course my husband started divorce proceedings and then I would have to go with that.
I'm not ready yet but would it be more financially more advantageous for me to divorce immediately? Also what grounds could I divorce under immediately as I have been told you have to have good reason eg adultery or unreasonable behaviour (that will not be seen as just the usual marriage issues)? Also what other options do I have?
My solicitor said that a divorce costs £1500 with her but I may not use her and might use a more prestigious solicitor because my husbands sister is a family law expert and so is her husband. He can get advice off them at any time and his solicitor so I need a really good solicitor behind me. I have heard of divorces costing £20,000 and more so how can my solicitor quote £1500? Would this be the start up fee only and then there would be charges added onto it? Also I cant afford a big price so can the fees be taken off any payment I would receive in the end from him instead? Also how do I go about getting a divorce and how long would it take?
My husband said recently that I wasn't going to get anything. Before that he said he didn't want anything from me. He seems to change his mind frequently. I am getting the keys to my house on 15th August and he wants me to get all of my stuff out of the house. I am worried he will change the locks and then sell some of my belongings or give them away. He might also not let me have them all back even though I have contributed towards furniture etc 50%.
Can that link above be used for Divorce in N.Ireland as that is where I live and am from? If not is there another link I could use?
Can I apply for a divorce then myself and not use a Solicitor? My husband has said he will get his Solicitor to write a letter saying that I am to be properly moved out by 15th but it will be impossible for me to do this so I will need more time. I was in a car crash recently, was in hospital for a week and my car was wrote off. This makes my situation worse as I will have to rely on other people to help me transport items from the house. I have also been advised by Doctors not to drive again until I get another test done in hospital as a day procedure. This may not be until Sept and then I will have to try to get another car. I am really stuck and my husband has offered no help regarding lifts etc.