People ask me whether I have a residence order or not. I don't know - I was unrepresented. My huge worry is that my ex will just organise a job in Leeds and also a school then use this establishment in court to be allowed to go ahead and move to Leeds. I have tried contacting school admissions both in Newcastle and Leeds to ask if they can keep me updated but don't think they can. I think court she knows court is inevitable and all her communication is written in an obviously judge friendly manner but in practice she continues to show conflict through numerous ways e.g. dragging him away when he's waving bye to me etc. As I can't really prove much of her bad behaviour I just live with it.
I have to say I remain very concerned that she will covertly arrange things in advance and then make a strong case to move away, at a late stage so the judge will be unlikely to allow proceedings to drag on.
I will use your advice about schools and mediation. In the meantime she has sent me a lengthy troublesome email claiming I can't handle my son and I am sending unnecessary communication to stop her moving on etc. I feel I have to reply as no doubt this email will appear in any court bundle.
She is not daft enough to move to Leeds without telling me, but she is manipulative/organised enough to begin choosing a school and arranging a job in Leeds, before sending polite correspondence l informing me of her plans to move shortly before Arjun would be due to start school there, and I am worried the court will have a hearing and agree the change in access to allow her to move my son to the chosen Leeds school and her to start her new job.
Throughout my dealings with her, she has arranged key decisions without involving me and I expect no different in the future. She has finally admitted that she has a boyfriend from Leeds and claims she has no plans yet to move. However as she is reluctant to even discuss his next school (application due in Sep/Oct 2014 for Sep 2015 start), and instead is emailing me saying she has sought guidance how to introduce new partners to a child, while saying her partner is a doctor who says the tiredness/lack of motivation issues my son is having is due to living near equally across two separate households.
Based on my experience with her covert arrangements sprung upon on me and my strong gut feeling seeing through her words, I expect her to attempt through court as late as possible take away my son to Leeds in time for school in Sep 2015. As I said she knows the ins and outs of the process and how to look reasonable in writing, while behind the scenes causing trouble and not co-operating.