When we parted my husband was earning approximately £45k , I'm guessing he's on about £55k now (grade 7 civil servant) I was earning about £22k.
Due to behavioural issues of my youngest son and my poor health I gave up work in 2005 and supported us with cleaning, childcare and general household duties.
At the time of our separation our children were 11, 9 and 7 years old.
My husband paid the mortgage which has varied between £500 and £600 a month over the years. The house was recently valued at £700k, the mortgage of £125k ends March 2017 but the endowment policy has a short fall of £65k. My husband has never contributed a penny to the upkeep of the house or the children and made it perfectly clear that he wanted as little to do with us as possible.
It was a violent marriage and I felt safer not seeking financial help from him.
I will have a small work pension of about £7k per annum, his pension should be 60% of his final salary. I believe I am entitled to half his pension and obviously half of the house. I would like to keep the house free of any debt and he keep all his pension.
I am 58 years old, he is 60.
My 3 children (24, 22 and 20) are still at home and although they are not seen as dependants 2 of them are apprentices on very low incomes.
The only communication I have had from him is the letter from his solicitor about the Consent Order. I am just trying to prepare myself and see what I may be entitled to.
Thank you Clare.