Thank you for answering my question.
Unfortunately, as I suspected, my wife's behaviour is becoming more threatening, bizarre and vindictive.
I looked after my children this evening whilst she went out and she had locked me out of the bedroom where I would have put the children to bed, stating that it was full of her personal possessions and that her solicitor had told her she could do this.
Is there any grounds on which she could do this? The mortgage and bills are and have been paid by me since the house was bought. I am also concerned that she is putting her own personality disorder before the genuine needs of the children.
When she came back, she started threatening me, saying 'do not test me...I'm scared of how far I will go...careers, nothing matters....I will go the full way.'
This was a bizarre display of behaviour.
I believe that I have been in an abusive relationship and that her behaviour is now following classic patterns of the break up of an abusive relationship (even though she filed the petition)
I believe that she is about to make false allegations and/or bizarre claims in order to gain full custody of the children, although the motivation and rationale for such behaviour cannot be truly understood. She is displaying the identifiable characteristics of an abuser and of false allegation cases. For example: the allegations have started and escalated after the legal action has commenced, there is a history on her side of family dysfunction with high conflict and hidden underlying issues.The female abuser is often histrionic or borderline personality, and she displays all the characteristics of this. Also, her hatred towards me supplants the interests of the children even though she claims that all is in the interests of them.
My concern is what I can do to protect myself against any future allegations and the interests of the children against such unpredictable and unpleasant behaviour and what is the best way to do it when she is trying to get me to pay her legal costs also?