9 and 5
He sees them every Saturday at the moment for a few hours, they keep asking to come home early though and have told me that they only go with him because they don't want him to get angry. He has hurt them in the past so understandably they are wary, they don't want to see him anymore.
I would have to bring the back over every half term which is roughly every 6 wks, he also has a long weekend every 3 weeks from work during which he could arrange to come over.
If I could i would stop the contact but I don't know how even though my children are scared of him, he has grabbed my son by the back of his neck recently to direct him in a certain way. My son was devastated that and they have told their teachers about things that have happened also.
We need a fresh start, I feel insecure in my own home as does my daughter. She has stress headaches and is unwell a lot with stress related symptoms too
He has said I can go but the kids can't but he has then spoken to our daughter who has said she wants to go, to which he has apparently said to her if that's what you want