Thanks for the long reply! so much detail :)
With the divorce situation, he has refused to sign the paperwork unless I pay him a large sum of money or admit I had an affair (which I didnt). I left him because he unfortunately loved alcohol more than me in the end. I was under the impression we would both need to sign the paperwork until the 5 year point and then I can apply on my own and will no longer need his signature. Is this not the case?
With the birth certificate situation, that makes a lot of sense and is so good to know. My ex is a nightmare, he used to do and say mean things just to get back at me and hurt me. I dont trust him and wouldnt put anything past him. He knew then how much having a child having meant to me, if there were any possible way he could take that away from me, he would do everything in his power to do it. He's extremely angry and bitter and just not a nice person really.
but its good to know where I stand and the rights I have as a future mother and that he will have no right to my children in the future.