My daughter has been involved with social services after an original abusive relationship before her son was born which is well documented by the police. During the stress, she was ' helped' by a person, Chris and unfortunately became pregnant by him. They were both taking Crack cocaine at the time but he turned out to be addicted. After she became pregnant it appears that although he was seeing her, he was also involved with another single mother. He refused to ave anything to do with my daughter until the little boy was 3 and he was asked to pay maintenance. By this time, she was pregnant by another man, and my granddaughter was born. The father was tottaly unsuitable and has had no contact with her after the first two months. Hence my daughter is left with two children and no father's name was put on either birth certificate.,
My daughter had used alcohol under stree conditions. With help she went to college awith the baby and is fully qualified, but social services forget this.while they put the children under child protection. as she left them for 30 minutes, having told the police and I was with the children within 10 minutes.
As a single mother, my husband and I have always been very involved and helped her with their upbringing.
She was about to come off the at risk register on 27th March this year being assessed as a good parent. She had taken the children to school and nursery by walking and using the bus as she was banned. The children are well documented as being happy, stable and well looked after. The boy was quite difficult at times . He was made to visit his father every other weekend which caused him intense worry and upset. The daughter was completely ignored by his family.
Social services have bullied my daughter who has very little confidence as can happen as she was given a statement of dyslexia at school and this always leads still to a ' language delay' when you need time to process thought before you answer.
My husband had Parkinsons Disease which led to multi sensory atrophy. For three years it was very distressing and my daughter, who is the only one of our children near home heped me to look after him.
He died on 8th March this year.
On 26th march, social services decided she was well over her father's death - totally untrue. On 27th whille still very distressed she also had a phone call from the olest daughter,whose own 17 year old had just been sectioned for yet again suicide attempts. Everyone was stressed. Unfortunately my daughter reverted to asking a neighbour for a can of drink. She left the children for 15 minutes and was two doors down the road. A neighbour phoned social services, again I was there in 10 mins wby which time the children were in bed at a friend across the road. The police eventually took her and I was with the children.
Long story, but at the police station a policeman put his head round the door and asked if the two children could go to the boy's father. It was his usual Saturday, so my daughter agreed thinking that I would collect them after. The granddaughter had never been to their house to visit before.
From this verbal agreement, the children were taken from their school and nursery, despite requests from them by Social services to the
father's home. My daughter was told by phone that they had been taken for good.
Eventually she was told that Social Services wanted that the father take out a Special Guardianship for one and long term fostering for the other. Social Services were not going to pay fostering money but would pay for the court case. It would seem that they were determined to tie up the situation without having to pay. As this would be a prvate case, my daughter would not get legal aid.
Gradually, anf with no explanation, they changed the orders to be requested that turned out that if they were successful, my granddaughter would be just short of being adoptedand there would br nothing we could do.
Both children are very unhappy and voice this, but we have been told that all adults have to stick to the story that ' Mommy had a headache and was ill ' and that they had to stay there until they were grown up. Their minds have been ' milked' with extrodinary life stories. and ideas of what happened - nothing like the police evidence.
We were due in court on August1st where they thought they would sign and seal the orders. Luckily, I received some of my husband's pension and we managed to get a lawer to stop the case until Oct 8th
Socia Services are still saying that they are trying for this outcome that my daughter is the equivalent of adopted
Surely, with no attachment to the foster family at all this can't be can it ? We have contact with the children who are becoming more and more distressed as was written for review by their school, nursery, pediatrician, psychology councellor, god parents and family.
Can they really do this ?