I am in the armed forces based in the UK, have split up with my husband and sinse had a baby, he had a paternity test done to prove he was the father as I said he wasn't, and has now taken me to court for paternity rights he has been granted two hours a fortnight supervised visits to my son who is one now, but I am Manx, I was born in the isle of man, I am based in the UK at present but have been told by my Lawyer that I can only take my son out of the uk for a maximum of 4 weeks without my ex husbands consent as the Isle of Man does not fall under uk juristiction, so this would suggest that I can not return home to the Isle of Man for longer than this and if I am posted aboard with the Armed Forces I have to ask his permission, should I have had a Manx Lawyer not a UK Lawyer like I have at present , we are to go back to court at the end of October for the case to be reviewed, but in the mean time I have a course with work and would like my son to stay with my mum in the Isle of Man until after my course has finished so this would mean that my son would be out of the uk for longer than four weeks and would need to miss at least two of my ex's visits, what are the changes of a court variation being granted? or is their something else that I can do?
My current lawyer is costing a fortune and my ex is representing himself and he seems to be getting all the results that he wants and nothing seems to be going in my favor at all
My Course is for two weeks at the beginning of Sept then a further 3 weeks at the end of Sept/ early Oct,
I am on holiday in the isle of man at the moment so my intention was to leave my son with my mum and collect him at the mid / end October.
My ex husband is also in the armed forces and at the moment has only had two 2 hour supervised visits with my son.
I have no other family in the UK, so my mum in the Isle of Man is my only option and she clearly is the best option that I have.
No my ex and I do not communicate in any other way apart from through a solicitor or in court, we do not agree on anything what so ever and he will fight all the way with anything I try to do.
The only problem with that is that it would mean a flight from the Isle of Man to Gatwick once a fortnight for a two hour visit, this isn't really practical and would cost in excess of £200.00 per visit plus a hire car