Thanks for replying. I am happy to wait a little longer. I was just anxious becasue I have never used this service before and I was worried it wasn't genuine.
The last 'proper' contact was in February 2010. I left him on 1 November 2009 and up until February 2010 they stayed at his house for 3 nights midweek and then a weekend afternoon (i.e. 3.5 days a week so that maintenance money would be halved). This was quite disruptive for the children. Therefore, my solicitor wrote to him suggesting contact every other weekend but he refused, saying that he didn't want to babysit for me to go out and enjoy myself. These days, they see their father now and again for a few minutes in school because unfortunately he is Chair of the school governing body and bizarrely has continued in this role even though he has no other contact with them. I believe he saw them at school for 5 or 10 minutes sometime in May. Yes, I do have form C100, but when I realised that I had to put his details down as a respondent I became quite anxious. I have avoided bringing the Court's attention to my children up until now. The school explained to me that I would have to get a Court order to remove him from the governing body and I have been too afraid to go that step further in case we would be called to Court. I now firmly believe that contact with their father would be of detriment to the children. When I completed my divorce application I did explain on the form that we could not agree on contact times, but nothing ever came of this and the divorce was granted anyway in September 2010. Also, he has never applied to Court for access rights, which again I have found quite odd.
I thought this might be the case. I have avoided making an application to Court regarding the children because in my mind if he really wanted access then he would have done something about it long before now. He also refused to take them to any activities/parties when he had them. Both my children play a lot of sport and it would be really upsetting for them if he didn't take them to their actvities. He also took an overdose when I told him I was leaving him. I have always been concerned about his mental stability, that is why I left him in the first place. How do I demonstrate to the Court that the motivation for the name change has come from them? I also have letters from him stating that he wouldn't be seeing the children until they were old enough to want to go to him of their own free will.