there is no residence order in place, it is a contact order only, stating the times and days i pick up and return my sons, she took them abroad last year but this year has only taken them away in the uk, i have to beg for contact outside of my court order and she reckons she will not give permission for me to take them abroad unless she has every single detail and has checked it all, even then she has said she still may not agree ?? however she just took them abroad, i dont know who went or anything as it wasnt discussed with me.
I have already answered this, i said it is a contact order only stating the times and days i pick up and return my sons, although it does say there shall be any other agreed contact, however she very rarely agrees to me seeing them outside of contact order, so no it does not allow for any holidays per se.
just because she is the resident parent and i am the non resident parent, we still both have parental responsibility, i am being treated like a second class citizen by her and not my childrens father. she does as she likes, justifying it by saying "as i am their main carer" she undermines my parenting skills and refuses to stop interfering in my time with my children, i asked originally if you could advise how to move forward with this, if applying for joint custody would help, you keep giving one line answers and asking questions which have already been discussed.
So can i clarify... by joint residence is that the new terminology for joint custody ? Would you advise me to apply for this or not ? Would it be more advisable to just apply for another contact order where holidays are included, and if so how do i word what i need ? Thanks
So ... to answer my question, in your opinion, if you were representing me what would you advise me to do ?
I already have a contact order which needs adjusting we have established that, bot***** *****ne is what needs to happen next, how do i proceed ?
Ok i have contacted my solicitor and we are now working on a new contact order to include holidays, he can only see me for an hour here and there as he is busy ?? But anyway conversations are in place. However i am still having her tell me what i am to do during my contact time, the latest being this weekend coming, it is my sons birthday on saturday, my contact this week is fri/sat so i have made plans for me and my children, only to be told that her plans for him and a party she has planned will overide anything i have already arranged, and if i do not comply she will not hand them over !
Why do i have no say or come back here ????? What did i pay 3000 pounds for ????
My son asked me to take him to a special restaurant he really likes for a meal so i have arranged this, except now he has told his mother we are doing this in our time she has made these other plans, im only asking these questions as i cant get my head round where i stand, i had a barrister sort this arrangement order for me it cost alot of money, but im no better off am i ??
Its not your fault but i just feel like im going round in circles, i think i may need to change solicitors as i need faster results, all i want is to have my children each weekend and spend time with them, i pay her money every week for them and the house, which is mine, and it just seems so unfair, thanks for your advice though, i dont think you can do anymore.