We hope to receive a copy of the report soon. we have raised a complaint with the body that provides mental health support and care for my partners ex wife has she has serious mental health issues, the complaint outcome has identified failings on there behalf and we are due to attend a final meeting with complaints investigation officer as it is clear that my partners ex wife is manipulating her SW, CPN and consultant. We have also requested a copy of the police reports, however my partner has to also seek the agreement of his ex partner for the release of them. As she lied in the initial temporary order paper work and the laymen court standing did not question this and gave temporary residency until the court date to me partners ex wife. Also part of this are my partners daughters maternal grandparents who have also lied and been and continuing to emotionally abuse my partner. They seem to have assumed defacto custody of my partners daughter and are key in the unreasonable decisions my partners ex wife is making. My partners ex wifes care is provided by her mother hence the following:
His daughter only spends time alone with her mum when she is sleeping as they share a bed.
All meals are eaten at the maternal grandparents home.
When his daughter throws a tantrum or disagrees with her mum, she is then taken to her maternal grandfather who then remonstrates with her until she comes to his way of thinking.
They continually speak negatively about my ex partner and I in front of his daughter which she finds very distressing.
My partners ex wife does not drive, hence the maternal grandparents do all the ferrying to and from school and afterschool activities, she goes to a private school hence has no friends locally, When she resides with us, she plays out with children locally and says such things as "she wished she went to an ordinary school in our village then she can make friends.
Previously my ex partner use to pay half of the school fees and has stopped until his ex wife rebukes on all the lies she has told e.g she told them that he paid nothing towards the school fees which can be clearly evidenced. his ex wife does not work, it is clear that the maternal grandparents are paying the school fees and all the ridiculous after school and weekend activities, which is an issue as we are being continually dictated by his ex wifes solicitor regards ***** ***** his daughter is taken to all the activities, most of which take up all weekend ect, hence making is very difficult to spend any family time. Fortunately since Cafcass have been involved this has now ceased, as they have made it clear that time spent with us is decided by my ex partner and his daughter. This is huge relieve as his daughter now decides what she would like to do when she with us and 99% of the time she wants to do family things.
His daughter does not see her grandparents in good light and would prefer not to spend the time with them, she feels they bully her and her mother, however her mum will not see and goes along with everything. However it is also clear that my partner ex wife enjoys the stress it is causing my ex partner e.g when to pick his daughter up from her mums home, my is often verbally abused by the grandmother and his ex wife just stands and smiles. As this was becoming too distressing for his daughter and my partner, I now go to the door when we pick his daughter up resulting in nothing being said or asked unless it is to do with school events etc. His ex wife hands any items his daughter would need and I say thank you politely and his daughter grabs my hand and we walk away, interesting the maternal grandmother stands in the house looking out of the kitchen window saying nothing, his ex wife barely speaks and never smiles.
We never speak negatively in front of daughter about her mum or grandparents and I always remind of my role which is not to replace her mum but simply to love her daddy and her.