In 2006 my ex husband signed a court order agreeing to pay child maintenance for his 2 children until they left university. When my eldest child went to university 2 years ago he arbitrarily decided to cease maintenance to me and paid my daughter a much reduced sum. She is at home with me for approximately 20 weeks of the year and never stays with her father, but her father provides me with no financial support for her during this time. He has recently (approximately May 2014) been to the CSA and overturned the Court Order for both children ( my youngest daughter is 16), on the basis that he is paying for another child, aged around 7, that is his by a lady he claims tricked him in to having the child, neither of whom have ever lived with him. Then he claims he pays for a child around 7, who is not his, but who lives at his house as he is the son of his current girlfriend. The father of this child is known and local, but the mother chooses not to claim maintenance from the real father. The CSA approached me and told me that my ex husband was making an enquiry about maintenance for his son and did I wish to be involved. I declined saying that I had a Court Order. They agreed and told me that he had told them that he had no intention of overturning it. Subsequent to that I received a letter from the CSA belatedly overturning the order for both of my girls, but my ex husband continued to pay the original court agreed sum for the youngest daughter, so I did not appeal. In August he reduced the sum ( practically halving it) to the CSA recommended amount. My ex husband earns at least double the £150,000 specified by the CSA, and the Court Order was agreed by the Courts based upon the requirements and expectations of his children if they lived with him. I know that I should have contested this straight away, but as he continued to make the payments, I trusted that he would continue to do so. I have avoided confrontation in the past, despite continuous bullying, because I thought that it was best for the girls and also because I suffer from acute clinical depression and bipolarity. I have now reached the end of my tether and wish to know if I can reinstate the orders.
I should add that I have sent 3 emails asking to discuss this or go to mediation. the first one he replied to telling me to take it up with the CSA as they had decided this. when i pointed out that it was his choice to follow the amount recommended by the CSA and that i wished to discuss it with him or go through mediation, he did not respond to those emails.