At the moment every Sunday but this has been postponed as it is not working as she refuses to go.
I believe she is scared of him because she has been bullied by him over the contact dispute. Just an example of many similar he has said she "has to" stay a week, go abroad with him etc and he asked her once whos fault she thought it was and she told me later that she said "mummys fault" because she did not want to upset him.
I am trying to keep this brief. I hope that example is ok?
Will I have a reply shortly?
Last Thursday, when I took her screaming, kicking and hitting me to see her father at the cafcass office. I encouraged her to go into the office alone with the cafcass officer in order to see her father. She refused. He left. They spoke to her. Sundays have been suspended pending an urgent directions hearing. My daughter is becoming more anxious. They just seem to have no solution but put the responsibility on me to make her see her Dad when she does not want to. She was very angry that cafcass had not listened to her the 2 times she had met with them before saying she did not want to see her father. They told me she did not say this.
She refuses to go with anyone else and I have tried that with my Dad already
Yes, as I said in my reply above about when she was taken to the cafcass office and the cafcass officer was going to had her over to her Dad
She has been told about this option and she refuses point blank to see her Dad via any means - 3rd party collect, 3rd party drop off(as was done with cafcass), mediator in the same room, her counsellor that she has been seeing since last October she does not even want in the same room with her if she were to see her Dad, but it will no doubt be suggested by the court at the next hearing. The fact is she does not want to see her dad and they are saying there is no evidence to suggest why she does not want to see her Dad, but I cannot force her. He has bullied her and spoken inappropriately to her about me and my family for the past 2 years. All things she has said have been scribed. They do not want to know. My daughter is completely fedup now. She has really had enough.
Yes, she has explained her feelings and her counsellors recommendations were for supervised contact which I have suggested, but now my daughter does not even want that especially after the incident as I explained where she nrefused to see her father even with the cafcass officer. There is an emergency directions hearing due in November where the cafcass officer may request to see the reports written by the counsellor.
She has separate representation by a solicitor since the middle of this year I have a solicitor since 2 months ago. I just wanted to get another opinion on the rights of the child when they do not want to see their father for the reasons I have given
My daughter does not wish to be collected from school by her father and that has already been explored.
She is refusing all means of contact with her father and the cafcass officer has recognised that she cannot be forced as she will become too distressed. As per my original question I see no solution in sight. Do you have one?