We don't know what income he has, he's self employed and everything is done by cash as far as I know. The CSA said he told them he had no income as such and that he had said that he gave me money when he could. But then I get messages saying he is working and can't have the kids.
Its very difficult for me, he knows I can't stop him seeing the kids, but he isnt fair to me because he has them when he wants and since July won't give me any money direct, only to the kids. My son doesn't want to be involved in the money side, be he knows I struggle and tries to get money off him for me (by his own choice he thinks he's helping me). He shouldn't be put through that. We have a daughter as well who is 17, because of the situation she doesn't have much contact with him again because of this, he won't give her any money. At the moment he only gives the boys £10 towards dinners, Charlotte got £10 this week because she spoke to him. He used to give me £60 direct every week.
He is a joiner by profession, but does building work, decorating, tiling etc. If someone wants their house doing he can do virtually anything in it.
Daily rate for a joiner is roughly £80 a day. If it's a kitchen/bedroom wardrobes etc. he can make between £800-1000 profit (that roughly a weeks for to fit them).
He got a big tax bill off the tax man last month (he was still down at our old house which he moved out of 7 years ago) so I forwarded his new address on to the tax man. He got a bill a couple of weeks ago. He text me to see if I had "grassed" him up. He owe's them over £6000, he told me he's not paying it, will move house again if he has too.
I have recommended family mediation but he wouldn't do it.
Feel better knowing I can say your not seeing kids. He just thinks he has every right to do what he wants.
Regarding the CMS what can I do if he says he has no address and he is prepared to dodge this and the tax man ?
He also keeps saying that we have joint custody so he can do what he wants with them, even though I am the main carer, is this true ? Thank you