Hi my husband is filing for divorce online i suspect because he can cash in his pension at 55 next year, worth 50000 and also is due to inherit of 200,000 plus soon, he drove me out of the rented home 5 yrs ago and i saved all my money to get a mortgage i am 53 my mortgage is till i am 70, i do not have a pension or any savings and had to go into debt to manage due to some time of work due to stress related illness, menopause, stress related diabetes and an arm injury. Am i entitled to his pension or any of his future inheritance?
My husbands argument is that i left intact he left me and moved from milton keynes to surrey, i commented for 2 years as my job was in MK whilst he made his mind up whether he wanted me or not. this created stress for me and stopped me from building my career and business, then he decided that he did not want me, i moved back in after that but he insisted i sleep in the front room on a sofa bed whilst he bought himself a new mattress. I felt very hurt and dismissed and extremely fragile, I was there for a year and saved every penny i earned whilst he lived a good social life after a year I had saved 9,000 to get a depoit for a mortgage on a part buy scheme which i am tied to. my husband kept in touch and after 9 months of no communication 2years ago he said he was sorry etc, and wanted me to move back and we could work it out. He said he would be the bread winner so that i could concentrated on building my holistic business which is what i have been working hard and studying to do for over 10 years, he changed his mind after spending xmas and now he wants a divorce. During the 13 years of marriage I asked my husband not to mess me around because i was making all the sacrifices, i did not have a pension or savings and i needed to make myself save, this is why i needed to get a mortgage. He promised me that he would make sure i as okay and that he would sign his pension of to me. I know the law is not interested in he said this she said this, however, I wanted to give you a tiny bit of history, it appears my husband is a lot more shrew than me and his argument is that my rage ruined our marriage. I have lost my temper after many months of keeping the pain and hurt within on several occasions but only when pushed to the limits. I was not going to ask for any money because i felt it wasn't my place but on reflection I also need to get my needs met.
so i am making this enquiry before i sign the online divorce forms sent to me without investigating my rights further.
I hope you can give me some clarity. Many Thanks
My husband does not have a house yet, he is staying with friends in hanstead heath, and has recently given up a rented house, he is pursuing a social media business which he is getting investments.
I know nothing about his business apart from snippets like its name as he kept me in the dark mostly.
we have lived apart for over the last 2 years
I am building a company self employed i pay myself £1000 per month
He is divorcing me on marriage has broken down irretrievably and lived apart for at least ? years
6 years, living together
No I am 6000 in arrears which I am paying off every month ordered by the courts.
yes arrears on the mortgage,
I was out of work for 6 months due to an arm and neck problem due to stress and excess driving over the years meant that I accumulated arrears.
his mum is in a home with dementia and the family home has been sold to pay for her care, she is quite ill and so i don't know, i am not told this information