Hi Claire. I am married with two boys aged 14 and 19. My wife and I have been married for some 19 years. We have had a difficult year where she has been continually getting upset and argumentative and has now asked me to move out. I am not sure where I stand with this and what would be the best course of action? Any advice would be much appreciated, John XXXXX
I am not happy in the marriage but at same time do not want to lose everything I have worked for. If I move out would it prejudice me with regards ***** ***** house and property. My 14 year old son I would want to see regularly or have stay with me for couple of nights per week but my wife says I would only be able see him every other weekend - my son would want see me much more than that. My eldest son would do what he wants. Ideally I would want sell the house and go our separate ways and I would help family as best as I could. If my wife says I have to move out, am I then obliged to do so or can I say that I want all of the arrangements to be worked out and agreed first.
The house is worth circa £375K and rising and mortgage is £241K.
Just looking at prices and my property is probably nearer £400 - £425K
A two bed property is circa £300 - £325K
My salary is £72,250 + 10% pension and PMI.
My wife has been fostering two young boys for last few months but is likley to end in next couple of months and my wife wants to give fostering up and has now trained to be a celebrant, but has not started working at this as yet.
She would probably have to sign for benefit to begin with until her new career starts.
She has done some TEFL (Teaching English to Foreign Students) where students come to the house for week or two to learn English - though this is sporadic and maybe 6-10 weeks pa max.
My wife has also done fostering from time to time. before the current placement she had not fostered for 3-4 years.
My wife has trained as a celebrant and if goes reasonably well she should earn £20K - £50K pa (for funerals she gets circa £200 and for weddings circa £400) - bit difficult to predict.
Her plan is to hold onto the house with my two sons, but not sure that would prejudice me as I purchased the property and have always paid the mortgage while my wife largely raised our sons.
The mortgage is in both our names as I wanted to give her security in the event of an early demise.
Thank you Clare
You have opened my eyes and can see this is going to be costly
I may do a one month sub as I still have more questions.
I asked a question a few days ago and do not appear to have an answer?
Did you get the question?
In case you did not, the question was:
My wife asked me to leave the house a couple of weeks ago as she was not happy
What is my legal position in this regards:
- on what grounds can she ask me to leave the house?
- am I legally required to comply
- Is there a time element involved