My wife and I separated in June 2014, due to pressures with our small business and with my step children, 4 of, aged from 6 to 13. We married in September 2013 after getting together in spring 2011.
The catalyst to us splitting was my wife miscarrying in May.
Whilst separated my wife had a one night stand and got pregnant through a casual encounter and is now having a baby. The father is a friend of mine that lives a few doors away. Six months on from our original breakup my wife and I are trying to resolve the issues and are going to counselling, as there is still a spark between us, but I need to know where I stand legally.
My wife has told the man that she wants nothing to do with him, didnt want a baby with him and that she doesn't want a relationship with him. She has also said his name won't be on the birth certificate.
We wanted a baby together and I am quite happy to take the baby on as my own but I don't want him around, as this will have a detrimental effect on my wife and I and my 4 step kids. The breakup and then the pregnancy are already having a massive impact on my oldest stepson with his behaviour at school becoming a real issue.
We also live in a very small village, where all this guys family live, we have considered moving right away.
Do I have any legal rights? Can I stop him coming near my family?
Can I be named on the birth certificate?
Does a man actually have that much say over a person he sleeps with in a one night stand?
Do I have any legal rights if named on the birth certificate, parental responsibility etc?
I am keen to protect myself both if I choose to resolve things with my wife, but also if I decide to walk away.