Very briefly. I am male 72 years old been married to a Chinese for 10 years. I am on pension credit she has self employed earned literally thousands of pounds mostly sent to China, most with tax avoidence. SEPT 3 rd she came home & started to clear the house with I stopped. She then returned on 3 sep occaisions with friend to collect her belongings plus 3 further times with police, no obstruction took place.The shock of all this made me ill the doctor prescibed various pills. I couldnt cope. Solicitors letters came,several incl. devorce papers etc. A very short time I did NOT open then because I couldnt cope. Yesterday I took them to a legal advisor. The reply was wife wants a divorce & what she wants & I to pay half the costs. This is making me more ill. Question is if I got a letter from my doctor could this put matters on hold for couple months while I can better cope. many thanks Keith Sinclair Spalding. During the marraige she has never paid ANYTHING towards household costs even though she has a workroom (seamstress) in the house where she has earned many thousands. I recently found several bank statements & transactions money to China in her maden name bank acc. I even had to repay £4000 back to the social sec pension credit because she was working whikle she hid away thousands. But advice I got was this is a seperate matter & I would have to pay to take it to court
There was no prior warning it was to happen. mattersshould be left for a few months between couples for a calming period, but matters are pushed through by solicitors. Why the urgency ? Also I have in mind she may want to marry some other poor old sod before he dies to get his money. She has turned out to be money crazed person. So its time she was stopped getting everything she wants on tap. At the start I kitted out with all special eqip and machines in a large room, from this she has earned tens of thousands of pounds & never paid £1 to her keep or expenses elec. tel. etc. I have found most of her bank statements plus her first bank acc in her maiden name wherby I would estimate she has sent £100k to china. And yet after an investigation into my pension credit i have to repay £4000 back. So I asked her to help me by paying £100 a month , for the first 4 months she gave nothing, then for 2 months she gave me £50 then the 3rd month she came home & cleared he belongings.She then came 3 sep times with police , she needs mental help i need more space
cont. she self employed & works for 2 dry cleaners, 2 dress shops & much private work, she only declares to her accountant work from one shop using one bank acc. a dry cleaners has admitted that he alone has paid her up to £400 a week in cash. Her annual returns show one shop with profits 6 to 8 thousand. I cannot make any claim against this because I cannot afford to pay the legal & court fees, even in her devorce she has stated that I pay half her fees !. To sum up she has virtually ruined 10 years of my life, ruined me financially & ruined my health. plus the police have been involved for her past violence & asked me to to action as being abused, 6 witnesses were involved. so i want to make everything very difficult for her. thats why i needed to know if doctors letter would put matters on hold. many thanks for your help
Clare many thanks for your guidence very much appreciated. I did take the unopened soicitors letters etc to a legal person (not solicitor) & I should have singned & returned them. I was told that they will now be served on me at a further cost of £100. I was also led to understand that once the devorse was granted i could not make any financial claim without large costs to court. just as a matter of interest what if I did nothing , not sign the papers once been served, just left it ? or if I signed then could not pay the costs ? could i then go to C.A.B. & they set a very low monthly payment ? As i am sure you understand I am so hurt by it if all else fails i will report her to inland rev for investigation tax evasion
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many thanks keith